You would do anything for your children, and you’ve enjoyed a loving relationship with them throughout their lives.
But recently, you’ve noticed that things are strained between you, and they seem resentful. Is it just normal adolescence or are you the victim of parental alienation?
Recognizing the signs of parental alienation
It’s understandable if your children have strong emotions about their parents’ divorce. Your children are likely trying to process the situation and have gone through the various stages of sadness, hurt, anger and confusion.
However, parental alienation goes beyond that. In this scenario, one parent manipulates their children to reject the other parent. Here are some common signs of parental alienation:
- Your child is suddenly showing hostility towards you without justification.
- They see the other parent as all good and you as all bad, without acknowledging any positive traits you may have.
- They are using language or phrases that you’ve heard from your ex-spouse.
- Your child starts making exaggerated or unfounded accusations about you.
- Their rejection spreads to your side of the family.
- Your child doesn’t want to spend any time with you.
While it’s painful to be rejected by your children, the damage that your ex’s manipulation causes can extend far into the future. They are more likely than their peers to experience mental health issues, such as depression, anxiety and low self-esteem. They may have substance use disorders and a difficult time forming healthy adult relationships.
Family courts want what is best for a child. Therefore, they consider parental alienation to be highly unethical. They may modify the custody arrangements, giving the other parent more time. The judge may also recommend family therapy to help the children express their emotions in a safe environment.
If you think your ex-spouse is actively trying to turn your children against you, it’s crucial that you speak with someone who can protect your rights, for your benefit and your children’s.