The holidays can be challenging for divorced parents, especially when navigating time-sharing arrangements over Thanksgiving.
The key to minimizing conflict is to plan early and communicate openly. Here are more tips on time-sharing this Thanksgiving.
Communicate
Start discussions with your co-parent well in advance to establish a clear schedule. This helps set expectations and provides an opportunity for everyone, especially the children, to know what to expect. A written plan can prevent misunderstandings and be a reference point if disputes arise.
Be flexible with scheduling
Flexibility can go a long way during the holiday season. If your current parenting agreement doesn’t clearly outline how Thanksgiving is divided, be willing to negotiate.
This could mean alternating the holiday yearly or splitting the day so that children spend part of Thanksgiving with each parent. If disagreements occur and you’re unable to reach a compromise, parents may need to go to court to establish a more structured holiday schedule.
Keep the children’s best interests first
Thanksgiving should be a time for children to create lasting memories and enjoy family traditions without stress. Keeping their well-being in mind is crucial. Avoid arguing in front of them or discussing contentious issues related to the holiday schedule when they are present. Ensure your child feels loved and supported by both parents, regardless of how time is shared.
Create new traditions
If this is your first holiday season post-divorce, consider creating new traditions to make Thanksgiving special. This can help shift the focus from what’s different to what’s exciting and unique. Whether it’s a special dish, a fun activity or watching a favorite movie together, new traditions can bring joy and comfort to the day.
Have a backup plan
Unforeseen events, such as travel delays or sudden illnesses, can disrupt even the best-laid plans. Having a backup plan in place can reduce stress if changes are needed.
